I don't normally post personal things on here (I usually leave that for meets) but............I don't know. I think I'm looking for some sort of advice, or sympathy, a friend or something. My dad's just bought his new girlfriend around and shes closer in age to my daughter then to him. (Which makes her younger then me). I'm not quite sure what to think about it. Not even sure it's my place to have an opinion........ Thoughts?
Id say what ever makes your dad happy mate. But then i no nothing about ur situation sorry :(
it might not last long so being quiet might be better
If it makes him happy then that should be all the matters but.......... if the age difference is that much then could she be after something? I know its not a nice thing to say, but these things happen. Also i could imagine it does seem very strange.
[QUOTE=merc85;608938]Id say what ever makes your dad happy mate. But then i no nothing about ur situation sorry :([/QUOTE] Don't get me wrong there's no situation as such between me and my Dad. Just an unexpected curve ball.
Erm just make sure he looks after his assets and money (not being used etc) other than that have a good time she will keep him young or wear him out. Probley not the best of info but you know me.
[QUOTE=LiamT4;608940]If it makes him happy then that should be all the matters but.......... if the age difference is that much then could she be after something? I know its not a nice thing to say, but these things happen. Also i could imagine it does seem very strange.[/QUOTE] She'd be hard push, he doesn't have anything lol
Does your Dad know how uncomfortable you feel about it? TBH you should be allowed to get to know her in a neutral territory first. IF he doesn't realise this then you should let him know - in a nice but firm way.
my dad is married to a woman my age, and when he was my age he married an 18 yr old lol i was 13 at the time lol
[QUOTE=Santa;608946]She'd be hard push, he doesn't have anything lol[/QUOTE] Well,in that case just let yr dad enjoy the life.As long as she looks after him etc what r u worried about?Me personally would be happy for my dad.I know its a bit kind of shocking due to her young age but is just something u`ll have to get used to.
what worries me is my dad is 66 and his wife is 38, whats it gonna be like in 10-15 yrs when he is really getting on? she will be off
[QUOTE=Santa;608946]She'd be hard push, he doesn't have anything lol[/QUOTE] If thats the case then i wouldnt worry to much, but i dont think it would hurt to express your feelings about it to him.
let him get on with it sir...life is to short....:worthless
Thanks for the posts guys, just on my "feelings" I don't even know what I feel. This is all just very odd.
[QUOTE=T5frankie;608957]what worries me is my dad is 66 and his wife is 38, whats it gonna be like in 10-15 yrs when he is really getting on? she will be off[/QUOTE] Well at least he`ll have a better time than most of his age.They say its not as scary to be an old man as sleep with an old woman lol
[QUOTE=PHIL V70R;608965]let him get on with it sir...life is to short....:worthless[/QUOTE] This thread doesn't need pics lol
Hmmm.....difficult one, I obviously know you but not your Dad, more importantly I wouldn't think there's anyone on here except maybe one or two very close friends/Nat who knows the relationship you have with your Dad, only you know if you can talk to him about this, though as you know, it really is his business.....just my tuppence worth.
Thanks for the posts guys. I'm going to leave it, if it comes to anything I'm sure I'll get used to it :)
I'm old enough to be her Mother. I have nothing else to add.
Right. As you'll know, I lost my step day a while back. I'm still coming to terms with things as after 20 years, in my eyes, he was my dad. One BIG regret I have is never calling him dad. My father was a no kind of father to me and when he left 2 days after my 8th birthday, I promised myself I would never call anyone dad again. Wel, 2 days after my 33rd birthday, my step dad dies at the age of 46, not a smoker, not a drinker and the kindest, most forgiving man I'll ever know but still taken from us without warning nor reason. My point is; Your dad won't be around forever so whatever he does that makes him happy should be enough for you to be happy for him and hey, the old fella's got a bit of younger stuff to play with, how ever long it lasts. I'd slap him on the back and say "fair play!" 2 weeks ago, I came home to find christmas presents on my doorstep, from my father. I still can't bring myself to call him. I'm going off on a tangent now so I'll stop there. Just be happy for him mate and if it goes t1ts-up, be there for him :)
Live and let live mate, if he's happy then no harm done, if she's happy then don't ask questions, might turn out the old man's hung like a horse, and knows how to please a lady. ;) LOL
All I have to say is I hope I'm in the same situation as your father at his age what ever that is .as said life is short might well enjoy whilst he can i would .
[QUOTE=smithy;608996]All I have to say is I hope I'm in the same situation as your father at his age what ever that is .as said life is short might well enjoy whilst he can i would .[/QUOTE] That's the most sense you've ever made....
[QUOTE=M-R-P;608990]Right. As you'll know, I lost my step day a while back. I'm still coming to terms with things as after 20 years, in my eyes, he was my dad. One BIG regret I have is never calling him dad. My father was a no kind of father to me and when he left 2 days after my 8th birthday, I promised myself I would never call anyone dad again. Wel, 2 days after my 33rd birthday, my step dad dies at the age of 46, not a smoker, not a drinker and the kindest, most forgiving man I'll ever know but still taken from us without warning nor reason. My point is; Your dad won't be around forever so whatever he does that makes him happy should be enough for you to be happy for him and hey, the old fella's got a bit of younger stuff to play with, how ever long it lasts. I'd slap him on the back and say "fair play!" 2 weeks ago, I came home to find christmas presents on my doorstep, from my father. I still can't bring myself to call him. I'm going off on a tangent now so I'll stop there. Just be happy for him mate and if it goes t1ts-up, be there for him :)[/QUOTE] I've never met my father at all and he didn't want to know about me or my brother .thats why I'm all for my kids because I would never want them to be in the same situation as me .
[QUOTE=Nealevo;608997]That's the most sense you've ever made....[/QUOTE] All I have to say is beeb lol
Stribo shhhhh Santa can't read stuff like that!!!!!
[QUOTE=Santa;608946]She'd be hard push, he doesn't have anything lol[/QUOTE] Well if thats the case, then let him get on with it. I know that the age difference is going to be quite a lot and will take some getting used to, but it could be worse.
Should have watched todays Jeremy Kyle (I know.... but I was bored ),Lass of 22 on complaining about her dad and his new girlfriend. He is 65, she is TWENTY................................ and pregnant !!! Just accept it, the more you meet the more comfortable you will become with the situation.
[QUOTE=M-R-P;608990]Right. As you'll know, I lost my step day a while back. I'm still coming to terms with things as after 20 years, in my eyes, he was my dad. One BIG regret I have is never calling him dad. My father was a no kind of father to me and when he left 2 days after my 8th birthday, I promised myself I would never call anyone dad again. Wel, 2 days after my 33rd birthday, my step dad dies at the age of 46, not a smoker, not a drinker and the kindest, most forgiving man I'll ever know but still taken from us without warning nor reason. My point is; Your dad won't be around forever so whatever he does that makes him happy should be enough for you to be happy for him and hey, the old fella's got a bit of younger stuff to play with, how ever long it lasts. I'd slap him on the back and say "fair play!" 2 weeks ago, I came home to find christmas presents on my doorstep, from my father. I still can't bring myself to call him. I'm going off on a tangent now so I'll stop there. Just be happy for him mate and if it goes t1ts-up, be there for him :)[/QUOTE] Well said
If it really bothers you i'd say have a word with your dad and express how you feel in a cool and calculated way. But at the end of the day bear in mind its his life and although you factor in to it being his son you shouldn't try and impose your opinions on to how he should live it. The old adage of age is just a number comes to mind, you never know this girl may just surprise you, i'd try and get to know her a bit before making any long lasting judgement.
I agree with most of whats been said re let him be happy etc. A slightly different (positive) take would be : 1) You should admire his get up and go ! 2) You should be proud that 'your old man' is such a pulling machine 3) Prey his pulling prowess runs in the family Good on him I say , lucky git :) Mas
No one has asked the most important question.....is she fit or a munter :)
[QUOTE=Jamest5r;609141]No one has asked the most important question.....is she fit or a munter :)[/QUOTE] I bow to the answer given by Jamest5r , you da man :Handshake
True say james lol, nah but on a serious note rich its down to u and how u feel, all good everyone giving there opinion n personal experiences but wont change how u feel bout the situation mate. Time will tell as always does, fly past on sat if u free.
Thanks for the posts again. Think it was more shock than anything else. Now not really to bothered. To answer Jim...............eeerrrrmmmm shes really not my type. G, supposed to be busy Saturday but I think it may be cancelled, I'll pop round if I can :)
Dude, blunt as I will be, you have to remember your Dad doesn't need your approval. Best advice I can offer is get to know her, give her the benefit of the doubt and talk to your Dad one on one about the age gap.
[QUOTE=Santa;609188]Thanks for the posts again. Think it was more shock than anything else. Now not really to bothered. To answer Jim...............eeerrrrmmmm shes really not my type. G, supposed to be busy Saturday but I think it may be cancelled, I'll pop round if I can :)[/QUOTE] Munter then :)
wonder what her parents think of her being with a older man.
[QUOTE=Santa;608935]I don't normally post personal things on here (I usually leave that for meets) but............I don't know. I think I'm looking for some sort of advice, or sympathy, a friend or something. My dad's just bought his new girlfriend around and shes closer in age to my daughter then to him. (Which makes her younger then me). I'm not quite sure what to think about it. Not even sure it's my place to have an opinion........ Thoughts?[/QUOTE] I think it depends on your perception of right and wrong to be honest Rich. I think as a society we have the expectation that couples should be of a similar age but in reality I think as long as the two people are legally adults I don't think it should actually matter. I had a music teacher at school who was about 30 years younger than her elederly husband and as people get older age gap seems to matter less and less. Talk to your Dad in private about how you feel, perhaps it might help in some way.
[QUOTE=Haizum74;609198]Dude, blunt as I will be, you have to remember your Dad doesn't need your approval. Best advice I can offer is get to know her, give her the benefit of the doubt and talk to your Dad one on one about the age gap.[/QUOTE] Damn straight, he doesn't need my approval [QUOTE=Jamest5r;609207]Munter then :)[/QUOTE] eeerrrrmmmm aaarrrrr [QUOTE=graemewelch;609247]wonder what her parents think of her being with a older man.[/QUOTE] That did come to my mind, that and he's probably older than them. [QUOTE=JamesT5;609249]I think it depends on your perception of right and wrong to be honest Rich. I think as a society we have the expectation that couples should be of a similar age but in reality I think as long as the two people are legally adults I don't think it should actually matter. I had a music teacher at school who was about 30 years younger than her elederly husband and as people get older age gap seems to matter less and less. Talk to your Dad in private about how you feel, perhaps it might help in some way.[/QUOTE] Last night I didn't know my perception or how I felt. Don't get me wrong my dad should be out there having fun, he's a single bloke and obviously my good looks come from somewhere. When you start introducing said bit of fun to family though...........is that considered a stage of commitment? Anyway as I said was more shocked and confused yesterday, fine about it today.
I thought as much. I still think he could have given you the opportunity to meet the new lady of his life in a more neutral setting - rather than turning up on the doorstep. Water under the bridge now.
mums and dads are not around forever so make the most of the time you have together...........when they are gone its too late for "what ifs"..............try to see it from another side..................its lonely without a partner..................try to support him if you can...................life's too short mate and regrets can eat you away inside ( take it from someone who knows first hand )..................
I've been in a similar position. My dad left my mum about 15 years ago for a woman my age. Our first thoughts were that she was after his money even though he had nowt. It totally destroyed our family leaving me and my missus to pick up the pieces after my mum descended into depression (including several suicide attempts) and it's only been very recently that she's come through the other side of it. My dads married to this woman now and has had three kids with her in the last few years (and he's pushing 70 now ! ) and as much as I feel I should be still angry with him I can't be. I feel sorry for his kids as they won't have had the father I did and he probably won't be around by the time they are in their teens but also I miss him as he now lives abroad and I perhaps see him once a year. As others have said, he's the only dad you've got, don't let something like this create feelings of animosity between you, trust that he knows what he's doing and if he's happy then you have to accept that this lass may well be around for a while.
If it was a mate with a young bird would your considerations still be there? Let the ole dog have his day mate no one is breaking any laws just wait till she starts dressing him like a 30yr old!:funkybana Tony.
Doesn't look like there's anything left for me to add, except glad to hear you've got over the shock and are able to accept the situation,good luck to your dad, hope he's found happiness, Mate
Just sit it out. It's just a gf and it could be your dad picked her out from the cold, being a good samaritan and all. Maybe it's how she's doing a payback ? But then again Love is blind and know no boundries.